Bᴜᴅᴅʜᴀ Tᴇᴀᴄʜᴇs Sᴇᴠᴇɴ Kɪɴᴅs ᴏғ Wɪғᴇ/ʜᴜsʙᴀɴᴅs

𝘈𝘤𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘉𝘶𝘥𝘩𝘩𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘸𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴/𝘏𝘶𝘴𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘴: 

1. The first is a wife/ a husband like a murderer.

2. The second is a wife/ a husband like a thief.

3. The third is a wife / a husband like a boss.

4. The fourth is a wife / a husband like a mother / a father.

5. The fifth is a wife / a husband like a sister / a brother.

6. The sixth is a wife / a husband like a friend.

7. The seventh is a wife / a husband like a servant.

THERE ARE SEVEN KINDS OF WIVES

Firstly, a wife who has a malicious mind is not faithful in marriage, abandons her husband, has nefarious relations with other men just because she is overwhelmed by their wealth or appearance, disdain her husband, has affection, and charms with others. Such a wife, the Tathagata calls the wife like a murderer.

Secondly, the wife does not take general care of the family economy; on the contrary, she still wastes the legal property of her husband creating. Such a wife, the Tathagata calls the wife like a robbery thief.

Thirdly, the wife who relies on her money, possessions, beauty, and talents, she is lazy, has no loving speech, does not get along well with her husband, but she only knows how to speak rudely and overwhelms her husband. Such a wife, the Tathagata calls the wife like a boss.

Fourthly, a wife who loves to care for helps her husband and knows how to preserve and enrich her husband’s property as a mother who takes full care of her family and children. Such a wife, the Tathagata calls the wife of the kind like a mother.

Fifthly, a wife who is meek, gentle, dignified, humble, knows how to pamper and cherish her husband like a brother in the family. Such a wife, the Tathagata calls the kind of the wife like a sister.

Sixthly, a wife who is always affable, cordial, happy, and in harmony with her husband is like when meeting a close friend who has just met together a long time ago. She is always virtuous and faithful to her husband. Such a wife, the Tathagata calls the wife like a friend.

Seventhly, a wife is always flexible, not hot-tempered, not angry. Despite being treated unkindly by her husband, she still did not show a rude and loud attitude. On the contrary, she also knows how to skillfully advise and conquer her husband. Such a wife, the Tathagata calls the wife like a servant.

According to the Buddha’s teachings, intelligent women should practice the virtues of the fourth, the fifth, sixth, and the seventh wives, and should keep far away from the kinds of the first, the second, and the third wives. 

THERE ARE SEVEN KINDS OF HUSBANDS

Firstly, a husband who has a malicious mind is not faithful in marriage, abandons his wife, has nefarious relations with other women just because he is overwhelmed by their wealth or appearance, disdain his wife, has affection, and charms with others. Such a husband, the Tathagata calls the husband like a murderer.

Secondly, the husband does not take general care of the family economy. On the contrary, he still wastes the legal property of his wife creating. Such a husband, the Tathagata calls the kind of the husband like a robbery thief.

Thirdly, the husband who relies on his money, possessions, beauty, and talents, he is lazy, has no loving speech, does not get along well with his wife, but he only knows how to speak rudely and overwhelms his wife. Such a husband. the Tathagata calls the kind of the husband like a boss.

Fourthly, a husband who loves to care for and helps his wife, knows how to preserve and enrich his wife’s property as a father who takes full care of his family and children. Such a husband, the Tathagata calls the husband like a father.

Fifthly, a husband who is flexible, enthusiastic, humble, and skillful, knows how to pamper and cherish his wife like a sister in the family. Such a husband, the Tathagata calls the husband like a brother.

Sixthly, a husband who is always affable, cordial, happy, and in harmony with his wife is like when meeting a close friend who has just met together a long time ago. He is always virtuous and faithful to his wife. Such a husband, the Tathagata calls the husband like a friend.

Seventhly, a husband is always meek, flexible, not hot-tempered, and not angry. Despite being treated unkindly by his wife, he still did not give in, did not show a rude and loud attitude. On the contrary, he also knows how to skillfully advise and conquer his wife. Such a husband, the Tathagata calls the husband like a servant.

According to the Buddha’s teachings, intelligent men should practice the virtues of the fourth, the fifth, sixth, and the seventh husbands, and should keep far away from the kinds of the first, the second, and the third husbands. 

~ compiled by Tshering Chedup Gatsel 

Reference:

Anguttara Nikāya and a story of a Jataka or a former life of Sujāta in Khuddaka Nikāya.